Monday, January 31, 2011

27 Dresses...

Weddings, weddings, weddings!  2011 brings a lot of weddings for us to attend!  Here is a quick run down...

January 8th ~ we attended a beautiful winter wedding for the daughter of a close friend and co-worker
May 21st ~  Clint's cousin's wedding
June 18th ~ Clint's brother, the last of the Koch boys to be married!
June 25th ~ Clint's childhood friend, who was Clint's best man in our wedding
July 23rd ~ Another dear friend and co-worker has a daughter getting married
August 20th ~ My cousin
August 27th ~ One of Clint's very best friends

That is all we know of now... you never know there maybe more!  I love weddings, so we are looking forward to sharing these special days with family and frineds. 

Over the last few years I have been in 6 weddings, plus my own.  Out of all of my friends and my sister, I was one of the last ones to get married.  Well for Clint he was the first from his family and out of his group of friends.  So he is in 3 of the above weddings I mentioned...best man in 2 of them.  I get to be in one of those weddings and I am the Matron of honor.  I'm looking forward to walking up the isle with my hubby.  We got to do that in his brother's wedding and it is soooo much more fun that way ;)  By the end of this summer Clint will have me beat, he will have been in 7 weddings, plus his own.

WoW!  Well that leads me to the real reason for this post.  Have you all been in lots of weddings?  What did you do with your bridesmaid dresses?  I still have ALL of them hanging in a closet.  I have thought about selling them several times.  Or taking them to one of those prom dress give away things.  I get all excited about doing it and then something inside of me tells me not to sell them.  What IF I ever want to wear it again.  Yeah, right, I have never needed them again since.  And then there is the, what IF we had a daughter someday thing.  She might love to play dress up in them.  I just don't know!?!?!  So I was curious what y'all have done with your 27 dresses, ha!

Oh, P.S.  today is Day 1, here we go again!  Bring on the pills and the shots.  Our next appointment is scheduled for, yep, Valentine's Day.  SOOO romantic!  I actually left work today I was in sooo much pain from the withdraw bleed, ugh!  After an almost 45 minute drive home, we are in another winter storm and the roads were awful, I spent the afternoon curled up in a ball on the couch with a heating pad.  Well...I'm off to make homemade pizza.  Pizza and beer for supper, hopefully I won't be able to enjoy the latter part of that sentence for too much longer ;)  Good night!

Friday, January 28, 2011

I wish...

So yesterday was another dreaded day at the mailbox.  Usually I LOVE getting unexpected packages.  However, there have been a few these last few months that make my heart just ache.  What was in there? Two free cans of this:


Honest, the only way to describe the feeling is that it makes my heart hurt.  Really bad.  It brings all the grief right to the surface, immediately.  A different kind of reminder that I should have a 2 month old right now.  This physical object sent to me for a baby that is only in my heart.   It makes me feel lonely.  Not only does this just remind be how much I miss our Angel, Nolan, but it reminds me how far away we are from having another baby.  I wish sooo badly that he was here with us.  I also wish sooo badly I was pregnant again.  I wish sooo badly we were not on this infertility journey and that we were doing what sooo many of our friends and family are doing, having a family of our own.

There are lots of other things I wish...
- I wish I were not jealous of anybody I see or know who is pregnant.
- I wish I could be nothing but honestly and completely happy for my loved ones who are pregnant.  I mean,
  I am happy for them, but that happiness does not come with out the jealousy or sadness.
- I wish when I read status updates on FB from friends who are pregnant that my first thought wasn't,
  "You  shouldn't be so positive about your due date, you might loose the baby before then."
- I wish that this anger stage of grieving would go away.
- My husband is the best and gives me everything I could ever need or want.  I wish I could do the same for
  him.
- Sometimes I wish Clint would just get mad at me, the way I am mad at myself for "not working" right.
  He never does, instead when I say things like this he gets all upset and tells me that he doesn't want that if he
  can't have it with me.  See, I told you he is the best.
- I wish I could sit through church with out crying, just once.
- Sometimes I feel angry at God, and I wish I never felt that way.
- I wish I felt complete joy, instead of some sadness, when I see my husband play with our nieces and
  nephews.
- I wish my insurance covered infertility.
- I wish the snow would melt so that I could decorate Nolan's grave with a big heart for Valentine's day.

See I told you I wish a lot of things.  There is more, this list could go on and on.  It felt good to write these things.  Some of them are things I have only told a few people and some of them are things I am embarrassed to tell.  But they are my feelings and they are more real than any feelings I have ever felt.  They are raw and yucky and I hate these feelings.  I know there will never be a day when all of these feelings are gone.  I hope and pray that with time, and hopefully, with another little miracle baby, some of these feelings will go away and the rest will become less intense. 

Oh, so the formula?  I put it in what was going to be Nolan's room.  Along with everything else we had bought for our sweet boy.  It does not expire for quite sometime.  I can only hope that someday we can feed that to Nolan's baby brother or sister.  Maybe getting that in the mail is just a sign of things to come? 

Good night,
Kari

Tuesday, January 25, 2011

"Some" of My Favorites

I thought I would do a post on some of my most favorite things.  Things that I cannot live with out.  I have many favorite people in my life, but this post will be about my favorite "things".  Oooh, maybe someday I will do a post about my favorite people ;)

#1...yes this MUST be at the top of the list.  For those that know me personally, you probably already know what this will be...

Besides my husband, this is my other true love.  Honest. 


Next up...
LOVE this, more than any other kind!

I have naturally curly hair.  Which means that when I straighten it, I can also have naturally frizzy hair.  Oh no, not with this...

The name says it all.  Period. 

Since I posted that, I must also include their hair spray.  These products are amazing, the best part?  You don't even have to get these at the Salon....AND....they are like $5 a piece.

Pretty much amazing ;)
We spend every Wednesday night at 8pm watching this...



I am 5'11", so I have a hard time finding pants that are long enough and fit well.  I love, love, love, their Tall section, especially for work pants!

Love their prices too...and lounge pants of course ;)


If everything goes well, hopefully, I will not be able to enjoy my next favorite thing for too much longer.


I had this for the first time a few months ago.  I should not have waited to long to try it, I am now in love.  In fact I dreamed about it a few nights ago. 

Spicy Crab Roll.  We have a new Sushi place in town.  Best part?  Mondays and Wednesdays everything is half price.  Yep, going for lunch tomorrow ;)


 Well, I could go on and on about other favorite things of mine.  But then that basket of clothes I folded last night would not get put away before I head for bed.  Good night!

Sunday, January 23, 2011

Restored Hope

Well, we had our first Dr. appointment with our new Dr. last Friday.  You know we weren't thrilled, to say the least, about seeing a new Dr.  Not lying, my stomach was in knots while we were in the waiting room, I was shaking I was so nervous.  We only had to wait a few minutes.
Once we were in our room, which is designed almost identical to the clinic we were at prior, we both felt much better.  We went over our infertility journey with the medical assistant first.  After she had finished asking me questions she had a few for Clint too.  The last question she asked him was, "Have you ever fathered any children?"  I felt a small lump in my throat.  Poor Hubby though, his eyes immediately turned red and welled up.  I waited a second for him to answer, and he couldn't.  I quickly told the assistant that our first son was stillborn this past August.  Usually if Clint even comes close to crying, I loose it.  I was sooo proud of myself that I was able to answer for him and take the pressure off of him in that moment.
As soon as we met, lets call him Dr. S, we like him.  Easy going, sincere, made jokes, listened to us.  One of the things I was most nervous about is that he would want to do his own work up and testing.  We did not want to waste our time with going through that and we did not want to have to pay for all of that again.  We know what the issue is, we have been pregnant before, and we just want to be pregnant again.  ASAP, we don't want to waste anytime.  To our surprise, Dr. S had reviewed all of my records at length, and we will not need to to ANY testing.  We will do a cycle almost identical to the cycle that I got pregnant with Nolan on.  He did a baseline ultrasound and we left with 3 prescriptions, all but one are the same that Dr. T has used.  The only one that is different is a little bit smaller of a dose that we take for a few days longer.  We both feel confident this Dr. will help us get what we want.  We are so relieved that our first appointment is over and that we are on this road again.  It is an emotional, bumpy, curvy road, but not doing any cycles was even harder! 
We had planned on going out for lunch and to the mall after our appointment.  Well remember in my last post how cold I said it was?  The thought of going in and out of the car was not appealing to either of us that day.  So we got sandwiches at a drive through, ate in the car,  and headed home.  We got home about 2:30, we put on our sweats and cuddled on the couch the rest of the afternoon and evening.  Even better way to spend our time that eating out and shopping ;)
We had a lazy Saturday morning at home too.  Hubby went to his shop to work a little bit and I went to town.  I ran some errands and had pizza with my Mom and Dad for lunch.  Before I headed home I stopped at my parents house.  I still had a few boxes of things that I had moved their after college and had never gotten them yet.  What I found in one of the boxes made me laugh harder than I had in a very long time.
In high school my best friend, still to this day, Ashley and I had a "notebook".  We put everything in this notebook.  We would write each other notes and pass it back and forth.  Well I found that notebook.  I called Ash right away and I was laughing so hard I couldn't even talk.  I read the first few pages but we agreed not to read anymore.  We are meeting for sushi on Wednesday night and we are going to read through the rest of it together!
Saturday night we went to supper with some of our very good friends.  After dinner we had a few drinks at their house before we headed home.  We were lazy again this morning.  Hubby is at his Mom's today helping her with some things and I have cleaned our house from top to bottom.  A pot of homemade vegetable beef soup is on the stove... perfect weekend.
Hope you all had a great weekend to!
Oh, and just because she is sooo sweet, here is a picture of our niece, and god daughter, Madyson.  We call her Maddy.  She was at my MIL's today and I stopped by to see them...
Cute, right?

Kari

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Windchill Advisory

I guess I can't complain too much, we live in the upper Midwest and it is January.  But, it is cold.  Very Cold.  Tonight is supposed to be -20...yuck!
This weather was perfect for the day a co-worker and I had planned for the rest of our office, though.  I work in a financial aid office at a private college.  Which means FAFSA season is right around the corner.  We thought that combined with the dreary winter weather, meant we could all use a little sunshine ;) 
We invited everybody to lunch, but they had no idea what the plans were.  We have our own conference room and, well, we turned that into this...


My partner and I decided to add a little flare to the event...

A little bummed you can't see my pink sandals...

Our creative student worker also made flies and ants.  Have you been to a picnic where there aren't any of these little creatures?



Our menu was "summer" a.k.a. grilled cheese burgers, pasta salad, baked beans, chips, and pink lemonade.  Oh and desert was the best part.  We brought in candles and roasted marshmallows for S'mores.  We also made a little "bean bag" game to play while our burgers were grillin!


Wish all work days could be that much fun.  Well, like I said it is FREEZING out, so I'm going to go cuddle on the couch with my hubby and my puppy! 

~Kari

P.S.  Tomorrow we have our first appointment with our new Dr.  All sorts a feelings going through my head right now.  Another good reason to go cuddle with my 2 favorites ;)

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

New Look

So when I decided, or when my sister finally talked me into starting a blog, I did it on a whim.  Actually I did it while I was at work, oops!  I did it fast, I did it simple, I didn't like the way it looked!
Well, I've been working on changing the way it looked so that I do like it.  I have been working on it at home, and yes a little at work to...its been a little slow at work, okay?  Ha! 
What do you think of the new look?  Like it?

Monday, January 17, 2011

Just what I needed

So my co-worker, and friend, gave me a sweet gift this morning.  One of the things was a small card with the most perfect words.  I just had to share:

When things go wrong
as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging
seems all uphill,
When you're feeling low
and the stress is high,
And you want to smile
but you have to sigh,
When worries are getting you down a bit...
By all means pray - and don't you quit.
Success is failure turned inside out,
God's hidden gift in the clouds of doubt.
You never can tell how close you are -
It maybe near when it seems so far.
So trust in the Lord
when you're hardest hit...
It's when things go wrong
that you must not quit!

These words hit so close to home right now, I mean to the T!  I so needed that.  As you know the Dr. we were seeing for infertility is not seeing patients right now.  Hubby and I decided we did not want to sit and wait any longer.  So we started the referral process last week.  On Friday I got a call that an appointment as been scheduled.   So....this coming Friday we will have our first appointment.  We are both taking the day off, we are going to make the best of it.  Out for a nice lunch after our appointment and maybe even some retail therapy!!!

We did not expect to have our Dr. leave, we did not expect to start over with a different Dr.  But things do go wrong.  We will trust in our Lord and we will not quit! 

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Another Bump in the Road

It has been a while since my last post, oops!  I'm still new at this blogging thing ;)  It has been a day from, well you know where from.  I decided some blogging therapy might help.
If you read my last post you saw where I called by Infertility/OB Dr., sweet.  Really that word is a HUGE understatement when it comes to describing him.  Honestly, there are no words to describe him.  Prior to my first appointment with him we had seen three other doctors along our infertility journey.  With each one our hopes dwindled just a little.  But all hope was revived on our very first appointment with him.  I trusted him and believed him in a way I have never trusted a Dr.  His compassion for his job and his patients is incredible.  After being told by, Mayo Clinic, none the less that IVF was our only option to conceive, we were pregnant after a mere 2 cycles with him.  He is a true Miracle Dr.
We were lucky to be able to continue doctoring with him as our OB for those wonderful 24 weeks I was pregnant.  On that fateful day of our last ultrasound he grieved right along with us.  He was the best Dr. to have in that situation.
All is great, right?  So what is with the title of my post?  Well...  We knew that the clinic did not do any infertility in December.  They use that month to do inventory.  Plus, with all of the Holiday's and vacation days in December it is hard to do cycles anyways.  We have known since day 1 that they do not work in December.  So when I got a message to call the clinic in regards to January scheduling, I thought nothing of it. 
I called back the next day to talk with the wonderful infertility coordinator Amy.  She is just as sweet as, lets call him, Dr. T.  Amy is always cheerful and talkative on the phone.  Not that day.  She quickly and awkwardly told me that he would not be part of the clinic in January and they would call when his schedules were open again.  She could not get me off the phone fast enough.  My first thought, something is wrong.
Everybody I told said things like, maybe he has a family member sick, his daughter was having a baby, maybe he is spending time with her, its fine don't worry.  Well I just could not shake this feeling.
Since then, I have talked to the nurse a few times for things like a prescription refill.  She has told me things such as for now induction of ovulation is shut down, that Dr. T is not hurt, she is counting on him to come back, there is not another  MD there to oversee ovulation while he is gone, blah blah blah. 
Well today, she sent me an e-mail that says she was told he is for sure not seeing patients until Jan. 28, and that that nothing beyond that is known.  I called her right away.  She flat out told me that she does not know if he is returning, she has not been told that he isn't but has not been told that he is either.  She told me that she misses her job and their patients.  She encouraged me to go somewhere else.  She said I can always come back there if/when he returns but that she knows this waiting is hard for me.
I am just sick about this.  I love him as a Dr.  I have NO clue what is going on with him.  I don't want to see somebody else.  I don't want to wait to see if he comes back.  I don't want to wait any longer than I already have to start our own family. 
So yes, another road block that makes having our own baby that much further away...
On a happier note, we went to a wedding this last weekend.  A beautiful winter wedding.  A close friend and co-workers daughter got married.  We live in Iowa, so January can be a very nasty month.  It was only 18 degrees.  But it was sunny and no wind.  Add in their amazing decorations and it made for one of the most beautiful weddings I have been to.  
Hubby & I at the reception

Me and and beautiful Mother of the Bride